@@HealthyGamerGG Dr. K, can you do a session on Ahankar (Ego), Maya (Illusion), and the wisdom of the Upanishads? These concepts are mind-blowing but so hard to grasp. Would love if you could break them down in your easy, relatable way. like how you connect everything to modern life. I feel like this could be a game-changer for a lot of us trying to figure out life and self-awareness.
Bro pulled out his ace card, didn't know it and went to a foreign country to learn ancient wisdom. He came back and merged it with his western upbringing and gave it back to us. May God bless you a thousand times over
I gotta be honest, dr k's stuff has helped with a ton of "autism" related struggles I had, without even addressing autism. Mental habits, getting control over emotions... I'm going to work everyday and even started doing extra classes for hobbies and stuff, while years ago doing something once or twice a week was so hard and I had so many meltdowns... I've been told and believed for years it was the autism that made me the way I was, but I was just unable to use my brain the right way. I'm just dealing with the most "essential" traits now for the most part, I have a long way to go but my god have I changed. I'm so grateful for this channel.
I have Autism as well and I honestly have a love/hate relationship with being diagnosed. On one hand it has been helpful with understanding the things I struggle with and why I struggle with them which has allowed me to have a bit more compassion for myself when I hit rough patches, however, it has also become a part of my identity and at times allowed me to put myself in a box. It has made me both underestimate and overestimate myself! Autism is objectively real and the experiences people have with it are undeniably valid. With that said though in some weird way past a certain point it can become an identity of its own for people and the conclusions that stem from it can actually prove to be unhelpful. Hopefully, what I've written makes sense lol in any event, keep up the great work :)
It’s awesome to know I’m not alone. I started working on the CPTSD and humility and all the autistic behaviors that made me difficult to be around are going away. The autism is a road map on the behavioral habits I have that I can heal. I get what you mean by “the essentials” staying. Before knowing about my autism, I thought the essentials were the problem. Turns out I’m just suffering from having too much ego, not my autism. So glad for clarity. This channel is so helpful. Glad you’re healing too.
This is legitimately one of the most important, best lectures you could watch on the internet. Dr. K basically went super saiyan during the early membership lectures, felt like he really tapped into a sort of flow I haven't seen since the beginning streams. (edit, grammar)
Dude this is literally exactly what I've been looking for. Realized that so much of my other thinking and fears of being unloveable are wrapped up in ego but couldn't find anything for dealing with it.
That makes me realise i am probrably not Unlovable, i just found the wrong people to share my love with and may need a Girlfriend. Also, i am probrably not Creepy, i just don't express myself well, or maybe people just have poor interpretation skills.
I genuinely think this created some new connections in my brain. Towards the end of the video I thought, "There's no way I can sit still for an hour and do nothing" and immediately I recognized and challenged that thought. I almost came up with another excuse as to why I couldn't do it again as I was writing this but blocked it. I think this is going to be a very useful tool for my arsenal. Thanks Dr K!
Rewatch it every 2-4 weeks for best results. Brain retraining requires repetition, and our toxic environments work to keep us in old, unhelpful patterns. Kudos to you! Love this!
This was sooo eye opening. When I look back upon my past, i didn't even realize how many of my narratives are just mental habits. And I have been doing this for so long. "I'm not going to make it, this is too difficult" (even though I almost always made it), "I can't go to this party, i'm too socially anxious". These are all just narratives that i tell myself and react to immediately. Thank you for this lecture Dr K.
As someone who’s known about everything in this video for quite some time, you will need constant reminders about these facts your entire life if you are able to grasp the concepts in this video you are blessed. It is one of the greatest lessons in life and you will have to choose to learn it everyday. Some might even say it is the reason we are living a life on earth in the first place because there really is no greater lesson than it.
You will get such a higher baseline happiness to you if you do this. 3 months makes you a conpletely different person. Been doing it for 16 months now and I am actively killing it out here
@starstenaal527 Recognize your sense of identity as being separate from the totality of yourself, and also that the stories your ego tells yourself are habitual and inaccurate, not something that is actually helpful or based in reality. Let's say for an example you believe you are a bad student. That's a negative form of your ego. Because of that belief, your internal talk might be something like this: "I'm a bad student. I'm not even going to try studying, because I know I'll fail my class anyways. There's just no hope for me." As long as _believe that_, you will fail your classes, but it isn't actually true. You believe your ego's judgment before even giving it a try, and that's why you fail. It will only strengthen your identity as a bad student because you failed a class again. This same concept works in relationships, gaming, your career, anything in life. If you have a rigid belief of yourself being one way, it will color how you view the world, what thoughts and emotions you have about it and how you choose to act. Recognizing your ego as just this, a habitual belief, will let you make your own choices instead of letting your ego make them for you.
“There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear, because fear includes punishment, and the one who is afraid has not been perfected in love.“
Hm, I disagree. Love at least involves a fear of losing a loved one. Some people can't handle that due to past experience, so they avoid getting close to anyone.
This is one of those rare times when I am watching a Dr K video and I hear something that I have already discovered for myself :) Based on my experience and understanding (largely guided by older HG videos), I have sort of realised that I keep telling myself "we can't do XYZ, here are all the reasons". Like, it is easy to find reasons no matter what the actual circumstances are. And I also keep having thoughts like "I wish I was really good at XYZ, that would be awesome, but I am not so I suck". And what I found out is that... It's just a habit. It's just what my brain learned to do - and by understanding this, my mind just goes "ok, yeah, you got me, haha". Like the emotional energy just fades away, not much different from when I sit with an unprocessed emotion in order to process it. I developed a habit of asking myself "is this influenced by ego?" And the answer is "yes" most of the time. And the coolest part about that is that it's sorta enough to do so to have ego quiet down. With understanding the magnitude of ego's involvement, it becomes arbitrary to see what _isn't_ coming from ego.
Approximately since last year I have been thinking a little different than before, kinda like you. Basically, I started realizing the excuses that my mind was creating to avoid certain situations, and then I ended up concluding pretty quickly "Ok, there's no real excuse not to do this". Sometimes I give in to my ego, but at least I'm aware.
I also had this realization around this month from watching dr k videos. Realizing how much the Ahamkara (ego) influences nearly your every thought without your acknowledgement feels eye-opening. When I revisit old memories, I can almost always trace the origin of my suffering to ego
it would be really great if we would occasionally get such advanced lectures, thank you for this video it was extremely helpful, regular healthygamergg viewers who dont have access to members only content would love more of such lectures, if it is feasible for you to upload. the free content available is also extremely helpful tho. no complains.
Thank you for this free guide. It seems like positive ego is also a form of prison, because we tend to try and recreate these beliefs. So, if I tell myself, that I am a winner, I will also avoid situations, that I must fail in order to progress or develop. It kinda flips to 'I don't want to be a loser, so I will stay in here.' I could be wrong, but this my understanding.
You are not wrong, and there's research on the topic that confirms what you are saying. Iirc, this is the exact reason why you don't praise a child's intelligence or talent, but rather their efforts and problem solving skills, so as to promote a growth mindset over a fixed one.
I serve my future not my ego. I choose progress over pride-I’m in the middle of launching (leaving home) from my toxic family environment. I’m at the hardest stage of achieving independence which is breaking free from their control; I’ve been called names, yelled at, gaslit, guilt tripped, invalidated, stonewalled but this also means that Im progressing because their tactics are escalating but my family continues to escalate the difficult (I’m 28 for god sakes) - it’s very important for me to keep my ego in check at this point in the process of leaving an abuser. I’m on a mission to break free not be right, not earn their approval, not convince them that I’m worthy. They don’t respond to logic- they respond to submission and obedience. I’ll play the game to break free. Humility is important and self doubt is a trap; they are acting from their own limitations not from my worth; truth does not need to be proven to those who refuse to see it; I see them as they are not what I wish them to be; I observe but don’t engage, I move forward but not push; keeping the ego in check isn’t about tolerating abuse it’s about seeing things as they truly are so you can act with clarity instead of emotional reactivity.
Hört sich nicht gut an und Kontrolle hast du nicht wirklich im Leben. Manchmal kommen gute Dinge auf dich zu oder irgendwas was dich auch vollständig aus der Bahn werfen kann. Versuche einfach geduldig zu sein und die richtige Zeitpunkt wo Menschen in dein Leben kommen oder irgendwelche Umstände dein Leben ändern können, habe etwas Vertrauen! Das hört sich einfach oder ist von mir leicht gesagt, ja aber auch ich habe viele Jahre sehr negative Erfahrungen gemacht. Du darfst nicht in dieser negativ Spirale bleiben und mit etwas Vertrauen das alles gut wird, kommt eine Veränderung. Wünsche dir von Herzen alles gute und viel Liebe in deinem Leben welche dich leitet
my mind lately has been concluding with utmost certainty that i shouldn’t be here anymore. i feel divorced from myself, my job, my friends, my area. i feel stagnant and done for. i watched call me by your name last night. the quiet of italy along with the character’s capacity to practice what they love made me realize how i trapped i am by my screen addiction and my nihilism. a notification for this video came to me as soon as i woke up, and it’s reaffirming a lot of the feelings i had last night. it sparks a desire for change and to disconnect, but i feel i’m in the pre contemplation stage still. i still want to take the easy way out. nonetheless i am grateful. merry christmas and happy holidays to you Dr. K and everyone in this community.
It's not really that you don't want to be "here." You just don't want to be in the place that your mind has conjured up. But there are limitless different "worlds" on this earth. Even the person next door is living in a completely different world from you. Even another "chronically online" person is living in a different world, if their algorithm is different from yours. So leaving this earth is not the answer. Finding & creating your new world... is. And you can do that from where you are right now. Although a change of scenery certainly helps... even a short vacation or a retreat can reset a perspective. I love to travel overseas to help unbrainwash me from American toxicity. I get reminded that our "reality" is merely cultural programming. E.g. traveling to Norway did wonders to take me out of COVID fear mode, after sitting at home for 2 years (I'm disabled and my partner works from home). They have a completely different perspective on it. I even caught it while I was there and went to the doctor... very therapeutic even though he gave me no treatment. But you don't have to travel overseas. If you live in the city, visit the country. Talk to locals, with 100% intention to learn from them and 0 intention to share your own agenda. If you're in a political echo chamber, find people who are the opposite, and LISTEN and try to find ways in which you agree. Life changing.
I felt depressed after a breakup (4years of relationship) and I was looking for a way to not repeat the same negative patterns by solving my traumas, but this point of view gave me such an epiphany, I'm so grateful!
This is my 30th video which I am watching on Doctor K's RUclips channel. In the course of 2 months, I have changed a lot and I am seeing a lot of changes in me. Thank you doctor k.
First hour gang UNITE! Just finished relistening the video on anhedonia, with it’s probably fourth different title, and that just contains all the tools for getting started taking the wheel and straightening the ship. Thanks for that one, again!
Please keep going on man. 10 years into tryin to understand myself human relationdhips and the world via psychology, philosophy and wisdoms and this is one of the best content found, that we can directly apply in everyday's life.
Every day I listen to this video at 28:00 as a mental exercise to become more present and aware, I really appreciate the way Dr K guides you through, the explanations and meditations really help. Thanks!
Just finished your lecture. I am one of your Indian Viewers, coming from a Hindu background it was relatively easy to understand and enjoyed it very much. Thank you, it helped me a lot. Happy holidays to you and your family.
WOW, this video hit the nail for me. I had been struggling for so many years trying to figure out why I felt certain unwanted emotions under certain circumstances. Irrespective of how hard I try to anticipate and prepare myself, the outcome stays the same. I have watched hundreds of hours of brian science and mindfulness content looking for this specific mechanism. Dr K mentions. Keep doing this great work sir. Thank you and thanks to the members too.
10:32 another explanation I can think of is that the same faculty that gives us inductive reasoning (this piece of greenery is called grass, this other piece of greenery is called grass, so I will induce that things that look spiky and green are grass) is behind the creation of identity as well. Same reason why people might judge others based on induced properties (what we may call prejudice), for example "this woman and this woman treated me, a man, badly, therefore I can induce that women treat men badly"
can confirm that going directly from negative ego to no ego was incredibly difficult and took over a decade, and I'm still working on it to a degree every day.
This one is a perfect explanation of why I’m so frustrated with therapy. OPS (objective personality system) has taught me a long time a go, I had a teenage obsession, that one never knows oneself. Because there are layers opon layers of distortions between who you actually are and who you think you are. And that you get to know yourself through experiences, through doing things but those experiences at the same time are the bias preventing you from actually knowing.
I think thats overcomplicating it. While I will admit I might not know who I am, I can confidently say in every living moment I am just me and I am very content in who that is. Find contentment in just being you, right now where you are, you are already whole even if you dont know who you are yet.
Even as an Indian who's familiar with these concepts and terminologies already, I'm really glad Dr K breaks it down. The fake gurus and swamis nowadays have twisted everything to fit some sort of agenda. These videos act as a kind of "grounding" which makes you realise what our Vedic knowledge _actually_ means and forces some reflection and re-evaluation. EDIT: Although I would say the usage of "sanksara" seems wrong. It's more akin to cultural and family values, than experience. Minor nitpick.
@@darealbingoxz1142 I came here to ask the same question, I hear that terminology a lot, but I never really understood what people meant by "fake gurus", or who are those fake gurus. If there's anyone that can explain it, I'd be glad to know.
@@robertstan2441 since content creation is monetized and somewhat easy these days, theres an influx of such teachers and the fake gurus essentially use these fancy, mainstream terms to sound knowledgeable, but mostly speak about their interpretations of it. although they phrase it in such a way that it is so persuasive and conclusive to be propogated as the absolute true meanings of heavy words, while it is mostly half incomplete or opinionated knowledge all along. that's what i have figured so far.
Thank you so so so much Dr. K and members for sharing this! I have been wanting some explanation on all of that without even properly knowing what it was ever since I saw Dr. K on the Diary of a CEO Podcast where he mentioned all those "I am ..." statements! I find it really fascinating, not only from a personal perspective but this lecture just showed me a great opening for academic research in my field of cultural anthropology, where two of my greatest interests are identity formation and performance theory! Thank you so so much once again!
Thank you for helping me improve so much this year Dr. K. You have truly made me a better person. Thank you for giving us this gift, happy holidays!!!!
I'm giving up all of my bad habits overnight, and I'll be documenting it on my channel and I'm hoping it can heal my shattered brain. Thanks for your inspo Dr K, cheers!
The concept of mental coloring is so fascinating to me, I was doing like a mental statement about a house just being a house, be it smaller or bigger than another one, and the in back of my mind I could hear the thought of thinking it was "worste" or "better", having to tell myself in my mind that they just ARE is kinda trippy.
@Once_In_A_Blue_Moon111 did you mean to write MPD (Multiple Personalities Disorder)? If so, the name has changed to DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder). Working with my doctors to know for sure but most likely yes. The other option is otherwise specified dissociative disorder (OSDD), which means you don't meet the criteria for DID in having enough memory loss or that the different identities aren't distinctive enough.
I’ve been watching Dr.K’s content for a long while, but it’s my first time writing a comment here. Just wanted to say huge thanks to you and amazing community you’re building, thanks for bringing more awareness in our lives and helping us grow! Also huge thanks to members of this community, you guys make stuff like this possible, love y’all! ❤
I needed this so bad, I've gotten to caught up believing I don't have a discernible identity when in reality it was the culmination of narratives I was telling myself.
I knew i had problems with seeing things clearly for quite some time, but thoughts felt so big and real. Thank you, doctor k, It's a gift I would treasure
I think it's because in the western world we only care about things that can be measured in some way and these things are just abstract concepts so they cannot be measured, doesn't mean they cannot be useful though ofc
This has been really insightful. I have been really struggling with the perception of myself lately, because of all the internal work I've been doing. I reached a point where I realized that I can't trust statements of "I am good" or "I am bad". Because there's the possibility I am biased towards one of the other and from my mental standpoint right now I'm just not able to tell whether I am biased or not. But this explains it so well that the next step is to just realize what you're thinking or struggling with. And nothing else. You don't have to know. And once you do know, You know you know it. I think that's what Dr.K meant with you will start to feel better once you let go of the vasanas. It sounds weird but I can't phrase it otherwise. Either way thanks Dr.K and Team for this lecture and all the others!
32:45 literally talking about mental habits and i pulled out a game from my phone and then he said" notice it is an echo from the past and it is not something i need right now" mental habits actually have a lot of power of us, i tend to wonder where our desires originate from, never had i expected they would come from a simple thing i did and did again, a mental habit
Good stuff. Thank you to Dr. K and the paying members of the community for sharing. Like someone else posted, the fact that this topic was chosen overwhelmingly by the community speaks volumes about its impact. Much appreciated!
Thanks for the video. I noticed an error in 9:56, the hierarchy is not correct, because if (1) wins to A and loses to B and C, that means, B and C will be on top, then comes (1) and last A. There are other points in which I will disagree, like for instance the link between Buddhi and memory (memory being the main source of materials for Ahamkara to build it's illusory existence), or equating the "sense of "I" (deep transcendent Self) to ego (self identity), but all that is debatable. All in all, a good video.
Thanks Dr K, reducing/controlling your ego and trying to know and understand your own thoughts, desires, etc is hard 😅. But I’ll try my best, appreciate the content 🙏
Thank you for sharing this with everyone! Amazing. However I think it needs more subtitles, because if I share this my friends, they will hear vassana samskara and they will be lost. 😅 lol
Wow, this was amazing. You've really structured some ideas I've been learning about and made them fit together and then sprinkled some more on top too. Amazing content - thank you for sharing your knowledge!
I don’t know if you have many older subs but your information can be for any age! Some of this I knew and lots of it I didn’t! So thank you! 🙏🏼You are a great teacher!
this helps a lot and i really get to the point where i just vibe with existence and do as i please frequently. my problem is that it seems like my weak points that hurt a ton and are really triggers for depressive episodes never seem to get any better and just drag me right back down. an example would be i will open myself up to the world and make new relationships (which used to be very hard), but at some point they end up hurting me so bad it puts me right back down for a long time everytime. like i can overcome many of my wordly troubles but theres always just those few things that take me into depression even with good effort from me.
I think that just comes down to you need to just keep doing the good effort but for yourself instead. Too easily do we get reliant on the attention of others to affirm our good intentions, but it must be enough to know for ourselves that our intentions were good and we are a good person regardless of the outcomes. sometimes I feel like I keep trying to be the most likeable person and people like me but they still dont want to hang out with me, but I think I'm just looking for deeper relationships when I need to be whole and complete with who I am first.
@kalizii Good luck to you! I also find that occasionally doing self-love or self-compassion guided meditations can help. Sometimes it takes a deeper level of presence to have a strong positive emotional experience during meditation, but when it happens it changes you.
I have just clicked at the bell because this was new, interesting, profound, and it seemed genuine produced knowledge because interconnected different cultural studies about the same thing. You helped me a lot, thank you. I am from brazil, and that is my first contact with these types of ideas
Guys help me now please, I had sex with a girl in our first date, first date was full of french kissess, touchings and the genuine desire in my defence, I texted that girl for another date and she just said " I dunno if I can be free at that day, I will inform you." and I texted " okey" after that she did not text yet, my offer was tonight so just a few hours left for our date, how to act if she does not text and what that means if we have had full of great desire times and she acts like nothing ? Or I am just going histerically ?
One way I like to think about the ego and overthinking problem is that "there is no one talking, there are only words". I don't know if that makes sense to you guys but I found it helpful.
I’m so thankful for your videos, I always learn something new and I think the work you do is truly influential. This video especially is so packed with knowledge and good stuff, I know it will help me be a better human
the fact that an entire community selected this video to share with everyone speaks to the crucial nature of this concept.
Thanks members, this was a great gift.
They chose a great one!
@@HealthyGamerGG Dr. K, can you do a session on Ahankar (Ego), Maya (Illusion), and the wisdom of the Upanishads?
These concepts are mind-blowing but so hard to grasp. Would love if you could break them down in your easy, relatable way.
like how you connect everything to modern life. I feel like this could be a game-changer for a lot of us trying to figure out life and self-awareness.
One of the single most beneficial videos I've seen to date
A very good one
Yay, thankyou so much members, was waiting for this
"They're just echoes from the past; they're not created in this moment" - This makes so much sense why "being present" is so important
well said
Bro pulled out his ace card, didn't know it and went to a foreign country to learn ancient wisdom. He came back and merged it with his western upbringing and gave it back to us. May God bless you a thousand times over
I gotta be honest, dr k's stuff has helped with a ton of "autism" related struggles I had, without even addressing autism. Mental habits, getting control over emotions... I'm going to work everyday and even started doing extra classes for hobbies and stuff, while years ago doing something once or twice a week was so hard and I had so many meltdowns... I've been told and believed for years it was the autism that made me the way I was, but I was just unable to use my brain the right way. I'm just dealing with the most "essential" traits now for the most part, I have a long way to go but my god have I changed. I'm so grateful for this channel.
Really interesting
I have Autism as well and I honestly have a love/hate relationship with being diagnosed. On one hand it has been helpful with understanding the things I struggle with and why I struggle with them which has allowed me to have a bit more compassion for myself when I hit rough patches, however, it has also become a part of my identity and at times allowed me to put myself in a box. It has made me both underestimate and overestimate myself!
Autism is objectively real and the experiences people have with it are undeniably valid. With that said though in some weird way past a certain point it can become an identity of its own for people and the conclusions that stem from it can actually prove to be unhelpful. Hopefully, what I've written makes sense lol in any event, keep up the great work :)
I love this for you! Keep it up!❤
@meme6335 great observation, this is what I've been trying to understand with neurodivergence myself as well
It’s awesome to know I’m not alone. I started working on the CPTSD and humility and all the autistic behaviors that made me difficult to be around are going away. The autism is a road map on the behavioral habits I have that I can heal. I get what you mean by “the essentials” staying. Before knowing about my autism, I thought the essentials were the problem. Turns out I’m just suffering from having too much ego, not my autism. So glad for clarity. This channel is so helpful. Glad you’re healing too.
This is legitimately one of the most important, best lectures you could watch on the internet. Dr. K basically went super saiyan during the early membership lectures, felt like he really tapped into a sort of flow I haven't seen since the beginning streams.
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Dude this is literally exactly what I've been looking for. Realized that so much of my other thinking and fears of being unloveable are wrapped up in ego but couldn't find anything for dealing with it.
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That makes me realise that maybe i am not unlovable and not creepy.
That makes me realise i am probrably not Unlovable, i just found the wrong people to share my love with and may need a Girlfriend. Also, i am probrably not Creepy, i just don't express myself well, or maybe people just have poor interpretation skills.
@@Gorilamúsico felt
we're only human brother,let honesty guide us trought the fear.
I genuinely think this created some new connections in my brain. Towards the end of the video I thought, "There's no way I can sit still for an hour and do nothing" and immediately I recognized and challenged that thought. I almost came up with another excuse as to why I couldn't do it again as I was writing this but blocked it. I think this is going to be a very useful tool for my arsenal. Thanks Dr K!
Rewatch it every 2-4 weeks for best results. Brain retraining requires repetition, and our toxic environments work to keep us in old, unhelpful patterns. Kudos to you! Love this!
@@joob40oh such a good idea. Will definitely be doing so!
@@dallasurr dude I experienced the same spiral
33:12 THE REAL GIFT RIGHT HERE!
Thank you Dr.K and thank you members!!
It is now stuck in my head lol
Du du du du doooo du du du doo doooo
Guile's theme goes with fucking EVERYTHING!!!
It's remarkably accurate 🤣 top tier healthy gamer-ing
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Hahahaha omg seeing this out of context is mind blowing
This was sooo eye opening. When I look back upon my past, i didn't even realize how many of my narratives are just mental habits. And I have been doing this for so long. "I'm not going to make it, this is too difficult" (even though I almost always made it), "I can't go to this party, i'm too socially anxious". These are all just narratives that i tell myself and react to immediately. Thank you for this lecture Dr K.
As someone who’s known about everything in this video for quite some time, you will need constant reminders about these facts your entire life if you are able to grasp the concepts in this video you are blessed. It is one of the greatest lessons in life and you will have to choose to learn it everyday. Some might even say it is the reason we are living a life on earth in the first place because there really is no greater lesson than it.
Thank you all members from the bottom of my ego!
Thank you for all you do Doc K
Nice to see you here Bro
Best Christmas Gift❤
Our members chose a good one!
You will get such a higher baseline happiness to you if you do this. 3 months makes you a conpletely different person. Been doing it for 16 months now and I am actively killing it out here
Im bout to lock in for 3 months
what exactly?
@starstenaal527 Recognize your sense of identity as being separate from the totality of yourself, and also that the stories your ego tells yourself are habitual and inaccurate, not something that is actually helpful or based in reality.
Let's say for an example you believe you are a bad student. That's a negative form of your ego. Because of that belief, your internal talk might be something like this: "I'm a bad student. I'm not even going to try studying, because I know I'll fail my class anyways. There's just no hope for me." As long as _believe that_, you will fail your classes, but it isn't actually true. You believe your ego's judgment before even giving it a try, and that's why you fail. It will only strengthen your identity as a bad student because you failed a class again.
This same concept works in relationships, gaming, your career, anything in life. If you have a rigid belief of yourself being one way, it will color how you view the world, what thoughts and emotions you have about it and how you choose to act. Recognizing your ego as just this, a habitual belief, will let you make your own choices instead of letting your ego make them for you.
@starstenaal527being 100% sober (no caffeine either) and meditation/yoga twice a day for at least 30 min ideally at sunset and sunrise
What have you bean EXCACTLY doing?
“There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear, because fear includes punishment, and the one who is afraid has not been perfected in love.“
Sounds like a load of BS.
@@JaysonT1it’s a scripture
Hm, I disagree. Love at least involves a fear of losing a loved one. Some people can't handle that due to past experience, so they avoid getting close to anyone.
This is one of those rare times when I am watching a Dr K video and I hear something that I have already discovered for myself :)
Based on my experience and understanding (largely guided by older HG videos), I have sort of realised that I keep telling myself "we can't do XYZ, here are all the reasons". Like, it is easy to find reasons no matter what the actual circumstances are. And I also keep having thoughts like "I wish I was really good at XYZ, that would be awesome, but I am not so I suck".
And what I found out is that... It's just a habit. It's just what my brain learned to do - and by understanding this, my mind just goes "ok, yeah, you got me, haha". Like the emotional energy just fades away, not much different from when I sit with an unprocessed emotion in order to process it.
I developed a habit of asking myself "is this influenced by ego?" And the answer is "yes" most of the time. And the coolest part about that is that it's sorta enough to do so to have ego quiet down. With understanding the magnitude of ego's involvement, it becomes arbitrary to see what _isn't_ coming from ego.
Approximately since last year I have been thinking a little different than before, kinda like you. Basically, I started realizing the excuses that my mind was creating to avoid certain situations, and then I ended up concluding pretty quickly "Ok, there's no real excuse not to do this". Sometimes I give in to my ego, but at least I'm aware.
I also had this realization around this month from watching dr k videos. Realizing how much the Ahamkara (ego) influences nearly your every thought without your acknowledgement feels eye-opening. When I revisit old memories, I can almost always trace the origin of my suffering to ego
it would be really great if we would occasionally get such advanced lectures, thank you for this video it was extremely helpful, regular healthygamergg viewers who dont have access to members only content would love more of such lectures, if it is feasible for you to upload. the free content available is also extremely helpful tho. no complains.
Really glad to hear this!
Thank you for this free guide. It seems like positive ego is also a form of prison, because we tend to try and recreate these beliefs. So, if I tell myself, that I am a winner, I will also avoid situations, that I must fail in order to progress or develop. It kinda flips to 'I don't want to be a loser, so I will stay in here.' I could be wrong, but this my understanding.
You are not wrong, and there's research on the topic that confirms what you are saying. Iirc, this is the exact reason why you don't praise a child's intelligence or talent, but rather their efforts and problem solving skills, so as to promote a growth mindset over a fixed one.
this is actually a good way to frame it
I serve my future not my ego. I choose progress over pride-I’m in the middle of launching (leaving home) from my toxic family environment. I’m at the hardest stage of achieving independence which is breaking free from their control; I’ve been called names, yelled at, gaslit, guilt tripped, invalidated, stonewalled but this also means that Im progressing because their tactics are escalating but my family continues to escalate the difficult (I’m 28 for god sakes) - it’s very important for me to keep my ego in check at this point in the process of leaving an abuser. I’m on a mission to break free not be right, not earn their approval, not convince them that I’m worthy. They don’t respond to logic- they respond to submission and obedience. I’ll play the game to break free. Humility is important and self doubt is a trap; they are acting from their own limitations not from my worth; truth does not need to be proven to those who refuse to see it; I see them as they are not what I wish them to be; I observe but don’t engage, I move forward but not push; keeping the ego in check isn’t about tolerating abuse it’s about seeing things as they truly are so you can act with clarity instead of emotional reactivity.
Hört sich nicht gut an und Kontrolle hast du nicht wirklich im Leben. Manchmal kommen gute Dinge auf dich zu oder irgendwas was dich auch vollständig aus der Bahn werfen kann. Versuche einfach geduldig zu sein und die richtige Zeitpunkt wo Menschen in dein Leben kommen oder irgendwelche Umstände dein Leben ändern können, habe etwas Vertrauen! Das hört sich einfach oder ist von mir leicht gesagt, ja aber auch ich habe viele Jahre sehr negative Erfahrungen gemacht. Du darfst nicht in dieser negativ Spirale bleiben und mit etwas Vertrauen das alles gut wird, kommt eine Veränderung. Wünsche dir von Herzen alles gute und viel Liebe in deinem Leben welche dich leitet
my mind lately has been concluding with utmost certainty that i shouldn’t be here anymore. i feel divorced from myself, my job, my friends, my area. i feel stagnant and done for.
i watched call me by your name last night. the quiet of italy along with the character’s capacity to practice what they love made me realize how i trapped i am by my screen addiction and my nihilism.
a notification for this video came to me as soon as i woke up, and it’s reaffirming a lot of the feelings i had last night. it sparks a desire for change and to disconnect, but i feel i’m in the pre contemplation stage still. i still want to take the easy way out.
nonetheless i am grateful. merry christmas and happy holidays to you Dr. K and everyone in this community.
You never truly wanted to not be here, you just wanted the pain to stop and now maybe you can figure out what's causing it
It's not really that you don't want to be "here." You just don't want to be in the place that your mind has conjured up. But there are limitless different "worlds" on this earth. Even the person next door is living in a completely different world from you. Even another "chronically online" person is living in a different world, if their algorithm is different from yours. So leaving this earth is not the answer. Finding & creating your new world... is. And you can do that from where you are right now. Although a change of scenery certainly helps... even a short vacation or a retreat can reset a perspective. I love to travel overseas to help unbrainwash me from American toxicity. I get reminded that our "reality" is merely cultural programming. E.g. traveling to Norway did wonders to take me out of COVID fear mode, after sitting at home for 2 years (I'm disabled and my partner works from home). They have a completely different perspective on it. I even caught it while I was there and went to the doctor... very therapeutic even though he gave me no treatment. But you don't have to travel overseas. If you live in the city, visit the country. Talk to locals, with 100% intention to learn from them and 0 intention to share your own agenda. If you're in a political echo chamber, find people who are the opposite, and LISTEN and try to find ways in which you agree. Life changing.
@@joob40ran into you again. This is such a powerful message you sent. You are being heard my friend. Thank you.
@@Lefty1x Oh my goodness thank you so much for those kind words.
I felt depressed after a breakup (4years of relationship) and I was looking for a way to not repeat the same negative patterns by solving my traumas, but this point of view gave me such an epiphany, I'm so grateful!
Thank you Dr. K! Congrats on HG's first birthday!
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First birthday ? He started this project in 2019...
This is my 30th video which I am watching on Doctor K's RUclips channel. In the course of 2 months, I have changed a lot and I am seeing a lot of changes in me.
Thank you doctor k.
First hour gang UNITE!
Just finished relistening the video on anhedonia, with it’s probably fourth different title, and that just contains all the tools for getting started taking the wheel and straightening the ship. Thanks for that one, again!
Please keep going on man. 10 years into tryin to understand myself human relationdhips and the world via psychology, philosophy and wisdoms and this is one of the best content found, that we can directly apply in everyday's life.
Every day I listen to this video at 28:00 as a mental exercise to become more present and aware, I really appreciate the way Dr K guides you through, the explanations and meditations really help. Thanks!
Agreed
Just finished your lecture. I am one of your Indian Viewers, coming from a Hindu background it was relatively easy to understand and enjoyed it very much. Thank you, it helped me a lot. Happy holidays to you and your family.
AAAAAAA! I am so excited for this! Thank you for posting this for free!
WOW, this video hit the nail for me.
I had been struggling for so many years trying to figure out why I felt certain unwanted emotions under certain circumstances.
Irrespective of how hard I try to anticipate and prepare myself, the outcome stays the same.
I have watched hundreds of hours of brian science and mindfulness content looking for this specific mechanism. Dr K mentions.
Keep doing this great work sir. Thank you and thanks to the members too.
10:32 another explanation I can think of is that the same faculty that gives us inductive reasoning (this piece of greenery is called grass, this other piece of greenery is called grass, so I will induce that things that look spiky and green are grass) is behind the creation of identity as well.
Same reason why people might judge others based on induced properties (what we may call prejudice), for example "this woman and this woman treated me, a man, badly, therefore I can induce that women treat men badly"
Such an unbelievably valuable lecture, glad to see it was the one that was chosen! I’m sure it’ll help tons like it helped me :)
If you want more of this juicy stuff, join the memberships! Never regretted it. Not a payed actor!
Thank you, member, for gifting us, the general audience, this juicy video! 🎄🥳
can confirm that going directly from negative ego to no ego was incredibly difficult and took over a decade, and I'm still working on it to a degree every day.
What practices helped you?
Thanks members for this gift! Looking forward to get my own membership at the beginning of the year. Happy holidays team Healthy Gamer 😄
This one is a perfect explanation of why I’m so frustrated with therapy. OPS (objective personality system) has taught me a long time a go, I had a teenage obsession, that one never knows oneself. Because there are layers opon layers of distortions between who you actually are and who you think you are. And that you get to know yourself through experiences, through doing things but those experiences at the same time are the bias preventing you from actually knowing.
Its quite mind boggling
I think thats overcomplicating it. While I will admit I might not know who I am, I can confidently say in every living moment I am just me and I am very content in who that is. Find contentment in just being you, right now where you are, you are already whole even if you dont know who you are yet.
Lol, ok now try and do long term planning with that mindset, goals, job identities etc @tahirravat131
Even as an Indian who's familiar with these concepts and terminologies already, I'm really glad Dr K breaks it down. The fake gurus and swamis nowadays have twisted everything to fit some sort of agenda. These videos act as a kind of "grounding" which makes you realise what our Vedic knowledge _actually_ means and forces some reflection and re-evaluation.
EDIT: Although I would say the usage of "sanksara" seems wrong. It's more akin to cultural and family values, than experience. Minor nitpick.
I wasn’t even aware that ahankara translates to ego. Makes sense, my mom always tells me I have too much ahankara
Samskara, the sanskrit word is different from the hindi word Sanskara, although the hindi word is rooted in Samskara.
Fake gurus as in? What even is a fake guru or a fake swami?
@@darealbingoxz1142 I came here to ask the same question, I hear that terminology a lot, but I never really understood what people meant by "fake gurus", or who are those fake gurus. If there's anyone that can explain it, I'd be glad to know.
@@robertstan2441 since content creation is monetized and somewhat easy these days, theres an influx of such teachers and the fake gurus essentially use these fancy, mainstream terms to sound knowledgeable, but mostly speak about their interpretations of it. although they phrase it in such a way that it is so persuasive and conclusive to be propogated as the absolute true meanings of heavy words, while it is mostly half incomplete or opinionated knowledge all along.
that's what i have figured so far.
Hey thanks to your members and YOU for sharing! Merry Christmas! 🙏🎄
As a bhartiye I really appreciate you spreading the wisdom of our ancestors while keeping it's identity considerably intact
Thank you so so so much Dr. K and members for sharing this! I have been wanting some explanation on all of that without even properly knowing what it was ever since I saw Dr. K on the Diary of a CEO Podcast where he mentioned all those "I am ..." statements! I find it really fascinating, not only from a personal perspective but this lecture just showed me a great opening for academic research in my field of cultural anthropology, where two of my greatest interests are identity formation and performance theory! Thank you so so much once again!
Thank you for the holiday gift, Dr. K! Happy holidays to you and yours!
Thank you for helping me improve so much this year Dr. K. You have truly made me a better person. Thank you for giving us this gift, happy holidays!!!!
I'm giving up all of my bad habits overnight, and I'll be documenting it on my channel and I'm hoping it can heal my shattered brain. Thanks for your inspo Dr K, cheers!
Merry Christmas everyone and thank you Dr K and the HG team for all the great content!
The concept of mental coloring is so fascinating to me, I was doing like a mental statement about a house just being a house, be it smaller or bigger than another one, and the in back of my mind I could hear the thought of thinking it was "worste" or "better", having to tell myself in my mind that they just ARE is kinda trippy.
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As someone with a dissociative disorder, this makes a lot of sense. Thank you.
Is it npd ?
@Once_In_A_Blue_Moon111 did you mean to write MPD (Multiple Personalities Disorder)?
If so, the name has changed to DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder). Working with my doctors to know for sure but most likely yes. The other option is otherwise specified dissociative disorder (OSDD), which means you don't meet the criteria for DID in having enough memory loss or that the different identities aren't distinctive enough.
I’ve been watching Dr.K’s content for a long while, but it’s my first time writing a comment here. Just wanted to say huge thanks to you and amazing community you’re building, thanks for bringing more awareness in our lives and helping us grow! Also huge thanks to members of this community, you guys make stuff like this possible, love y’all! ❤
I needed this so bad, I've gotten to caught up believing I don't have a discernible identity when in reality it was the culmination of narratives I was telling myself.
Omg that’s me at 00:26 seconds 😍
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Congratz
Thanks for your vote this lecture is awesome
Yeah me too :)
It's not
I knew i had problems with seeing things clearly for quite some time, but thoughts felt so big and real. Thank you, doctor k, It's a gift I would treasure
eastern pov of the ego and mind is so helpful, feels like in the western we miss half the picture!
I think it's because in the western world we only care about things that can be measured in some way and these things are just abstract concepts so they cannot be measured, doesn't mean they cannot be useful though ofc
Bible and Ancient Greek Philosophers talked about it.
This has been really insightful.
I have been really struggling with the perception of myself lately, because of all the internal work I've been doing.
I reached a point where I realized that I can't trust statements of "I am good" or "I am bad". Because there's the possibility I am biased towards one of the other and from my mental standpoint right now I'm just not able to tell whether I am biased or not.
But this explains it so well that the next step is to just realize what you're thinking or struggling with. And nothing else. You don't have to know. And once you do know, You know you know it.
I think that's what Dr.K meant with you will start to feel better once you let go of the vasanas.
It sounds weird but I can't phrase it otherwise.
Either way thanks Dr.K and Team for this lecture and all the others!
@@DasosBeats really insightful
thank you, god bless all of you
Thank you Dr K, watched for videos for a long long time now, you’ve helped me greatly.
Im 38 years old and many of the things DR K say makes a lot of sense and are really helpful. I wish ive knew this stuff before
You who reads this, I hope you have a great day and I know you can do it! Everything will be fine! Sending love 💜💜💜
32:45 literally talking about mental habits and i pulled out a game from my phone and then he said" notice it is an echo from the past and it is not something i need right now"
mental habits actually have a lot of power of us,
i tend to wonder where our desires originate from, never had i expected they would come from a simple thing i did and did again, a mental habit
the way you explain these ideas is so easily digestible, S tier teacher
Best creator. Imagine society if these were the lessons we got in school.
Thank you for sharing this. It's triggered a change in my thinking in a profound way. I hope I never recover.
Thanks members & doctor k, please don't remove this, it has been really liberating.
Thanks, members and Dr. K :)
Merry Christmas ✝️
This is timely. Arcane 2 touches a lot on ego and identity
Good stuff. Thank you to Dr. K and the paying members of the community for sharing. Like someone else posted, the fact that this topic was chosen overwhelmingly by the community speaks volumes about its impact. Much appreciated!
Thanks members. It was really kind of yall fr. God bless ya
This is a great explanation of sankhara, good job. Havent seen or heard anyone else do it this way
Thanks for the video. I noticed an error in 9:56, the hierarchy is not correct, because if (1) wins to A and loses to B and C, that means, B and C will be on top, then comes (1) and last A. There are other points in which I will disagree, like for instance the link between Buddhi and memory (memory being the main source of materials for Ahamkara to build it's illusory existence), or equating the "sense of "I" (deep transcendent Self) to ego (self identity), but all that is debatable. All in all, a good video.
Thanks Dr K, reducing/controlling your ego and trying to know and understand your own thoughts, desires, etc is hard 😅. But I’ll try my best, appreciate the content 🙏
"It's all just a chain of echoes"
Beautifully said
Thank you!!
Love your explanations as they are so informed about both eastern and western perspectives.
You're a saint, thank you. And, man, it's been a year since the membership already??? Time flies by.
Thank you for sharing this with everyone! Amazing. However I think it needs more subtitles, because if I share this my friends, they will hear vassana samskara and they will be lost. 😅 lol
Thank you Dr. K!! What you and your Team do is life saving and life enhancing!!
Wow, this was amazing. You've really structured some ideas I've been learning about and made them fit together and then sprinkled some more on top too. Amazing content - thank you for sharing your knowledge!
Thank you Members ❤ thank you Healthy Gamer team❤ we appreciate it. Merry Christmas and happy new year everyone!!
This is one of Dr. K's most important lectures. So thank you members, you are the GOATS.
I don’t know if you have many older subs but your information can be for any age! Some of this I knew and lots of it I didn’t! So thank you! 🙏🏼You are a great teacher!
Thank you for sharing this video with all of us 💙💚
Dr. K helped change my life. For the algorithm!
Thank you members and Dr K, this is a great one!
I love the yogic neuroscience and paychology! ❤
this helps a lot and i really get to the point where i just vibe with existence and do as i please frequently. my problem is that it seems like my weak points that hurt a ton and are really triggers for depressive episodes never seem to get any better and just drag me right back down.
an example would be i will open myself up to the world and make new relationships (which used to be very hard), but at some point they end up hurting me so bad it puts me right back down for a long time everytime.
like i can overcome many of my wordly troubles but theres always just those few things that take me into depression even with good effort from me.
I think that just comes down to you need to just keep doing the good effort but for yourself instead. Too easily do we get reliant on the attention of others to affirm our good intentions, but it must be enough to know for ourselves that our intentions were good and we are a good person regardless of the outcomes.
sometimes I feel like I keep trying to be the most likeable person and people like me but they still dont want to hang out with me, but I think I'm just looking for deeper relationships when I need to be whole and complete with who I am first.
@@tahirravat131 thank you i relate to this a lot, i'll keep in mind to affirm myself instead of waiting for the feedback from others
@kalizii Good luck to you! I also find that occasionally doing self-love or self-compassion guided meditations can help. Sometimes it takes a deeper level of presence to have a strong positive emotional experience during meditation, but when it happens it changes you.
33:12 it’s true guile’s theme really goes with everything
Ty for providing this free! I just signed up to the Healthy Gamer site, I need more of this lol
I have just clicked at the bell because this was new, interesting, profound, and it seemed genuine produced knowledge because interconnected different cultural studies about the same thing. You helped me a lot, thank you.
I am from brazil, and that is my first contact with these types of ideas
Guys help me now please,
I had sex with a girl in our first date, first date was full of french kissess, touchings and the genuine desire in my defence, I texted that girl for another date and she just said " I dunno if I can be free at that day, I will inform you." and I texted " okey" after that she did not text yet, my offer was tonight so just a few hours left for our date, how to act if she does not text and what that means if we have had full of great desire times and she acts like nothing ? Or I am just going histerically ?
Please post a loop of dr k's tut turu turu turu ❤❤😹😹
Today is my birthday and this pops up in recommendations. A literal gift here. Thanks Dr. K a lot
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Happy birthday 🎂
Thanks for you and the members of the community for this informative video .
Now this is a video that i need a lot.
Well,not me but for someone i love.
One way I like to think about the ego and overthinking problem is that "there is no one talking, there are only words". I don't know if that makes sense to you guys but I found it helpful.
I'm watching this one twice and need more
One of the best dr k videos i swear!!!!!
I loved this point of view.
I’m so thankful for your videos, I always learn something new and I think the work you do is truly influential. This video especially is so packed with knowledge and good stuff, I know it will help me be a better human
What a wonderful gift. Thank you so much, members. 💜
Thank you so much for the gift 🎉🎉❤
Merry Christmas everyone and thanks you dr.k ❤
thanks to everyone!